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What Should I Know About Being a Surrogate for my Sister-in-Law?

For many, in-laws are just as close and loved like any other member of the family. So, if you’ve watched your sister-in-law and brother struggle to have a child, you’ve likely wondered if you could help.

If you’ve ever thought, “Is being a surrogate for my sister-in-law right for me?” then contacting a surrogacy specialist is a great way to start your surrogacy journey. But, if you aren’t ready to chat, the following guide may help.

Below are some of the most frequently asked questions from sisters who are considering becoming surrogates to help their siblings and siblings-in-law:

Can I be a Surrogate for my Sister-in-Law?

Just as you may think of this question on your own, intended parents will sometimes ask, “Can your husband’s sister be your surrogate?”

Regardless of who initiates the conversation, gestational surrogacy between siblings and in-laws can be possible in many situations, provided everyone:

What are the Requirements for Being a Surrogate for my Sister-in-law?

The requirements you need to meet can vary depending on where you live and the professional you work with. But, usually, to be a surrogate for a brother and sister-in-law, you’ll need to:

While these are the basic requirements to become a surrogate, you’ll also need to:

What Would Being a Surrogate Mother for my Sister-in-Law be Like?

The surrogacy process would, for the most part, be the same as it would in any situation. The two biggest differences are you wouldn’t need to search for the intended parents, and that your relationship would be different than most intended parent-surrogate relationships.

But, you also should consider the unique emotions of partnering with family in surrogacy

Being a surrogate for a sister-in-law and your brother means:

Being a surrogate for your sister-in-law and brother can be a rewarding experience for your entire family — as long as everyone is prepared for surrogacy’s unique emotional benefits and challenges. Partnering with an experienced professional is the best way to address this.

Is Traditional Surrogacy with my Sister-in-Law an Option?

In traditional surrogacy, the surrogate is also the egg donor, making her the biological mother of her brother and sister-in-law’s baby. This is why traditional surrogacy can be legally and emotionally complicated — and why it is now illegal in most states.

In gestational surrogacy, a donor egg or eggs from your sister-in-law are used to create the embryo, so you would still only be the baby’s aunt. This is the only type of surrogacy that most professionals will complete today, as traditional surrogacy is often considered too risky.

Gestational surrogacy is always the best option.

Should I be a Surrogate for a Sister-in-Law?

Just because you’re not related by blood doesn’t mean you aren’t close. Many siblings-in-laws grow to be as close as any biological siblings, and so, when you watch your family members long for a baby, your heart goes out to them.

However, being a surrogate for a sister-in-law isn’t right for everyone. If there are reasons why being a surrogate isn’t an option for you at this time (or perhaps ever), it’s perfectly acceptable to say “no.” It can be hard to turn down your loved ones, but you should never feel pressured to carry their baby if surrogacy isn’t right for you.

There’s a surrogate out there ready to help complete your sister-in-law’s family, but this may not be you. You can help in other ways, like fundraising for their surrogacy journey.

How do I Become a Surrogate for my Brother and Sister-in-law? How Should I get Started?

Always start by contacting a surrogacy professional. They’ll have a thorough knowledge of your state’s surrogacy laws, whether you’ll likely meet the requirements, and what steps may be required in your situation. They’ll also be able to answer additional questions about being a surrogate for your sister-in-law and help you begin the process whenever you’re ready.

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