If you’re considering surrogacy in Alabama, you probably have about a million questions running through your head. That’s completely normal—and honestly, it shows you’re thinking seriously about this important decision. We’ve heard these questions countless times from women just like you, and they all come from legitimate curiosity and genuine concern.
This FAQ guide covers the most common questions about becoming a surrogate in Alabama, from basic eligibility to deeper concerns about relationships and emotions. Think of this as your quick reference resource while you’re exploring whether surrogacy might be right for you.
Have a specific question not covered here? Contact a specialist today to get personalized answers about your unique situation.
Your Top Surrogacy Questions Answered
We’ve organized these FAQs into the categories where most questions tend to cluster. Whether you’re wondering about basic requirements, legal protections, compensation, or the emotional aspects, we’ve got you covered with honest, straightforward answers.
Getting Started Questions
Q: Can I become a surrogate in Alabama? A: If you’re a healthy woman between 21-40 who’s had at least one successful pregnancy and is currently parenting a child, you very likely qualify. Alabama is surrogacy-friendly, so there are no state-specific barriers preventing you from becoming a surrogate.
Q: Do I need to live in Alabama to be a surrogate here? A: No, you don’t need to be an Alabama resident. Many surrogates live in neighboring states but choose to work with Alabama agencies and intended parents because of the state’s favorable surrogacy laws.
Q: Where do I even start if I’m interested? A: Start by researching reputable agencies serving Alabama, then complete online applications with agencies that feel like good fits. Most agencies offer free consultations to help you understand the process and determine if you’re ready.
Q: How do I know if I’m really ready for this? A: You’re ready if you have clear motivations, genuine family support, meet the basic requirements, and feel excited about helping create a family. Having some nervousness is normal—it shows you understand the significance of this decision.
Q: What if I’ve never heard of anyone being a surrogate before? A: Surrogacy is more common than you might think! Many women just don’t talk about it publicly. Experienced agencies can connect you with other surrogates who are happy to share their experiences.
Legal and Safety Questions
Q: Is surrogacy legal in Alabama? A: Yes! Alabama is one of the more surrogacy-friendly states. There are no laws restricting surrogacy, courts routinely enforce surrogacy contracts, and pre-birth orders are available to establish intended parents’ rights.
Q: What legal protections do I have as a surrogate? A: You’ll have your own independent attorney (separate from the intended parents’ lawyer) who represents only your interests. Your surrogacy contract will clearly define everyone’s rights, responsibilities, and what happens in various scenarios.
Q: What happens if the intended parents change their minds? A: This is extremely rare, but your contract addresses this scenario. Intended parents remain legally and financially responsible regardless of their feelings. You would not be responsible for the child’s care.
Q: Can intended parents tell me what to do during pregnancy? A: No. While you’ll agree to reasonable health guidelines, you retain the right to make medical decisions about your body. The contract balances their interests in the baby’s health with your bodily autonomy.
Q: What if something goes wrong medically? A: All pregnancy-related medical expenses are covered by intended parents, regardless of complications. You’re not financially responsible for any medical issues that arise during pregnancy or delivery.
Money Questions (No Judgment Here)
Q: How much do surrogates make in Alabama? A: Base compensation typically ranges from $40,000-$60,000, with first-time surrogates usually earning around $45,000. Experienced surrogates often earn more, and this doesn’t include additional bonuses or expense allowances.
Q: When do I get paid? A: Most compensation is paid monthly starting in your second trimester, so you’re not waiting until the end to see benefits. There are also milestone payments throughout the process.
Q: Is it wrong to want to be compensated? A: Absolutely not! Intended parents genuinely want to compensate you fairly for the incredible gift you’re giving them. Being paid for your time, effort, and physical commitment is completely legitimate.
Q: What expenses are covered? A: All medical expenses, legal fees for your attorney, maternity clothing allowance, monthly expense allowances, travel costs for appointments, and often additional benefits like life insurance during pregnancy.
Q: Do I have to pay taxes on surrogate compensation? A: Yes, surrogate compensation is generally taxable income. You’ll want to set aside about 25-30% for taxes and consider consulting with a tax professional familiar with surrogacy compensation.
The Process Questions
Q: How long does the whole process take? A: From initial application to birth, expect 12-18 months total. This includes screening (6-10 weeks), matching (2-12 weeks), legal/medical preparation (4-8 weeks), the medical process (4-8 weeks), and pregnancy (9-10 months).
Q: What’s the hardest part of the process? A: Many surrogates say the waiting periods—especially waiting to match with intended parents and waiting for pregnancy confirmation—can be challenging. The actual pregnancy and birth often feel more straightforward.
Q: Do I get to choose the intended parents? A: Yes! Reputable agencies let you review profiles and choose families that feel like good matches. You’re not assigned to intended parents—you mutually select each other.
Q: What if I don’t like the intended parents I’m matched with? A: If compatibility issues arise, good agencies will help mediate or assist with finding a new match. You shouldn’t proceed with intended parents if the relationship isn’t working well.
Q: Can I have my own doctor? A: You’ll primarily work with the fertility clinic’s medical team for treatments and early pregnancy, but many surrogates can use their regular OB for routine prenatal care after the first trimester.
Medical and Health Questions
Q: Is surrogacy safe? A: Gestational surrogacy carries the same risks as any pregnancy. You’ll receive comprehensive medical care throughout, often with more monitoring than typical pregnancies. Most surrogacy pregnancies proceed normally.
Q: What if I’ve had a C-section before? A: Previous C-sections don’t automatically disqualify you, though agencies may have limits on the total number of previous C-sections. Each situation is evaluated individually.
Q: Can I be a surrogate if I’m overweight? A: BMI requirements typically range from 19-32, though some agencies are more flexible. The key is being healthy overall, not achieving a specific number on the scale.
Q: What medications will I have to take? A: You’ll take fertility medications to prepare your body for embryo transfer, similar to what women undergoing IVF take. Most are injections, and you’ll be thoroughly trained on how to administer them.
Q: Do I have to follow a special diet? A: You’ll follow standard healthy pregnancy guidelines—no smoking, limited alcohol, good nutrition. There aren’t typically restrictive diets beyond normal pregnancy recommendations.
Relationship and Family Questions
Q: How will this affect my relationship with my partner? A: Good communication is key. Your partner needs to understand the process, support your decision, and be prepared for the physical and emotional demands. Many couples find the experience brings them closer together.
Q: What do I tell my kids? A: Age-appropriate honesty works best. Explain that you’re helping another family have a baby, and that this baby isn’t your baby but you’re taking care of it until it can go to its family.
Q: Will I get attached to the baby? A: Many surrogates feel protective and caring toward the baby, but describe it as different from the feelings they had for their own children—more like caretaking than parenting. The baby not being genetically yours makes this distinction clearer.
Q: What if my family doesn’t support my decision? A: Family support is important for your emotional wellbeing. If immediate family members are opposed, consider whether their concerns are valid, if education might help, or if you need to wait until you have more support.
Q: Do I have to stay in touch with the intended parents after birth? A: That’s entirely up to you and the intended parents. Some maintain ongoing relationships, others prefer to transition to minimal contact. This should be discussed and agreed upon before starting.
Agency Questions
Q: Do I need to work with an agency? A: While independent surrogacy is legal, working with an experienced agency is almost always smarter. Agencies provide legal protection, financial security, medical coordination, and professional support throughout the process.
Q: How do I choose a good agency? A: Look for agencies with extensive experience, positive surrogate testimonials, transparent processes, comprehensive support services, and clear compensation structures. Ask about their success rates and support systems.
Q: What if an agency asks me to pay fees? A: Legitimate agencies don’t charge surrogates fees. If an agency asks you to pay upfront costs, that’s a major red flag. Reputable agencies are paid by intended parents, not surrogates.
Q: Can I switch agencies if I’m not happy? A: Switching agencies can be complicated, especially if you’re already matched or under contract. It’s better to research thoroughly and choose carefully from the beginning.
Q: What services should an agency provide? A: Good agencies provide matching services, legal representation, medical coordination, financial management, ongoing support, counseling resources, and crisis management throughout your journey.
Still Have Questions?
This FAQ covers the most common questions, but every situation is unique. If you’re seriously considering surrogacy, the best next step is to have a conversation with professionals who can address your specific circumstances and concerns.
What you can expect when you reach out:
- Honest answers to all your questions
- Assessment of your qualifications and readiness
- Information about current opportunities and timelines
- Connection with other surrogates who can share their experiences
- No pressure—just information to help you make the best decision
Contact a specialist today to get personalized answers, learn about current opportunities, and take the next step in exploring whether surrogacy could be right for you.
Remember, asking questions shows you’re taking this decision seriously—which is exactly what you should be doing. You deserve comprehensive information to make the best choice for you and your family.