As you’re considering whether or not to become a surrogate, the pros and cons of surrogacy can play a huge role in whether you embark on this life-changing journey. Understanding the benefits of surrogacy and the risks of surrogacy can help you weigh your options to decide which is the best choice for you moving forward.
But, what exactly are the surrogacy pros and cons you should know? And how do you know when you’re ready to take this next step?
Below, find some of the information you need to answer these questions and start your surrogacy journey.
The Pros of Surrogacy
There are obviously many positive reasons for surrogacy and becoming a surrogate — otherwise, no one would choose this path. For many women, becoming a surrogate gives them a life-changing opportunity to reach goals and dreams that they may have had for years.
But, this isn’t the only benefit of surrogacy. Some others include:
- Financial Benefits: Most women considering surrogacy know that they have the opportunity for base surrogate compensation. This compensation can often help a surrogate reach a large financial goal — like paying off her student loans or putting a down payment on a house — and serve as a substantial motivation for becoming a surrogate. In addition, pursuing surrogacy will come at no financial cost to you, as your intended parents will pay for all of your surrogacy- and pregnancy-related expenses along the way.
- Sense of Satisfaction and Fulfillment: Many women have dreamed of being a surrogate and helping another family for years. When they finally become surrogates, they can achieve these personal goals they’ve had, creating a sense of satisfaction by also knowing that they’ve made a difference in the world by bringing a much-wanted child into it.
- Lasting Friendship: Surrogacy is an intimate partnership between a surrogate and her intended parents, oftentimes for a year or more. Therefore, one of the common benefits of surrogacy is the opportunity to create a real, genuine friendship that can last for years after the surrogacy process is complete. Depending on your personal relationship with the intended parents, you may get to experience the joys of seeing the child you brought into the world grow up, as well.
- Experience of Pregnancy: Many surrogates truly love the feeling of being pregnant but have already completed their family with no desire for another child. For them, one of the advantages of surrogacy is getting to go through the pregnancy experience all over again without the commitment of bringing a baby home at the end of those nine months.
The Cons of Surrogacy
On the other hand, there are also some important risks of surrogacy and challenges to be aware of before committing to this process. Surrogacy is not right for everyone, and that’s okay. What’s important is that you make sure it’s right for you before moving forward.
If you’re thinking about being a surrogate, you should consider how you feel about these potential disadvantages of surrogacy:
- Commitment of Time and Effort: When you choose to become a surrogate, you are committing yourself to a year or more of working with your surrogacy professional and the intended parents until a healthy baby is born. This will take a lot of your personal time and effort, and it will likely affect your ability to complete your responsibilities as a mother and an employee. For example, consider the fact that you will likely be required to take fertility medications for months before transfer, attend frequent doctor’s appointments before and during your pregnancy and communicate with the intended parents as laid out in your surrogacy contract. All prospective surrogates should consider how this commitment will affect their personal lives — and how they will manage these responsibilities — before starting.
- Medical and Psychological Screenings: Surrogacy is an intimate process, and you should be prepared for your personal history to be an important part of your screening process and your surrogacy journey as a whole. Before becoming surrogates, women should feel comfortable undergoing extensive screening designed to make the surrogacy process as safe as possible for them.
- Emotional Complications: One of the possible issues with surrogacy is the potential for emotional complications — not just because a woman is giving birth to a child she can’t keep but because her surrogacy journey affects her relationship with her family and friends, too. While most surrogates do not feel as great of an emotional connection with the baby they’re carrying (instead thinking of it as “babysitting”), it can still be emotionally trying to undergo the challenges of nine months of pregnancy for a baby that is not yours.
The Truth about Surrogacy Controversy
As you’re considering surrogacy, you may come across misleading information meant to sway you one way or another. That’s because, even though surrogacy is a modern and safe process in the U.S., many people still do not understand the process — which is why there can still be a surrogacy debate today.
Many of the arguments against surrogacy — that it exploits vulnerable women, that women are forced to “give up” their own babies — are representative of older, less regulated forms of surrogacy (like those that used to be practiced in many foreign countries). In the United States, however, surrogacy is a well-regulated, safe process for surrogates and intended parents. By completing a compensated, gestational surrogacy, you will always receive fair financial compensation for your services and you will not be related to the baby you’re carrying. Advocates for surrogacy focus on informing the public of this truth of this family-building process — and why surrogacy is good for all involved when completed safely and effectively.
It’s important that you understand all of the details of the surrogacy process — including the pros and cons of surrogacy — before committing to this life-changing journey. While you are ultimately the only one who can make this decision, contacting a surrogacy professional can help you get all the information you need to make the right choice for you.