Thinking about becoming a surrogate in Maine? You probably have a million questions swirling around in your head right now! That’s completely normal—and honestly, it’s a good sign that you’re thinking things through carefully. We’ve heard just about every question you can imagine about surrogacy, and we’re here to give you straight, honest answers.
This FAQ covers everything from “Do I qualify?” to “What’s the legal situation like?” to “How much will I actually make?” We’ll break down the complex stuff into simple terms and address those concerns that might be keeping you up at night.
Want personalized answers to your specific situation? Contact us to speak with a Maine surrogacy specialist who can address your unique circumstances and concerns.
Where to Start
Q: “Do I qualify to be a surrogate in Maine?”
Great question to start with! The basic surrogate mother requirements include:
- Being 21-40 years old
- Having had at least one healthy pregnancy and delivery
- Maintaining a healthy BMI
- Be a non-smoker
- You’ll also need a stable home environment and strong support system.
Here’s the thing—every situation is unique, so even if you’re not sure about one requirement, it’s worth having a conversation with an agency.
Q: “I’ve never done this before. Where do I even begin?”
Most women start by doing exactly what you’re doing right now—researching! Next steps typically include reaching out to an agency for an initial consultation, completing an application, and beginning the screening process. The key is finding an agency that serves Maine and makes you feel comfortable and supported. Learning how to become a surrogate doesn’t have to be overwhelming when you have the right guidance.
Q: “Are there good surrogacy options in Maine specifically?”
Absolutely! While Maine might not have as many local agencies as larger states, you have access to excellent national agencies that serve Maine families and surrogates. Many surrogates in Maine work with agencies like American Surrogacy, which provides comprehensive support throughout the state. The key is finding an agency that understands Maine’s legal landscape and can provide local support when needed.
Q: “How do I know if surrogacy is right for me?”
This is probably the most important question you can ask. Determining if surrogacy is right for you involves considering your motivations, support system, health, and emotional readiness. Most women who thrive in surrogacy are motivated by genuine desire to help others, have strong family support, and feel excited (not just curious) about the journey.
Legal Protection
Q: “Is surrogacy legal in Maine?”
Yes! Maine is considered a surrogacy-friendly state with laws that protect both surrogates and intended parents. The state recognizes gestational surrogacy agreements and allows intended parents to establish legal parentage before birth. This makes the legal process smoother and more secure for everyone involved.
Q: “What legal protections do I have as a surrogate in Maine?”
You have several important protections under Maine surrogacy laws. You must have independent legal representation (paid for by the intended parents), you can’t be forced to make medical decisions against your will, and you’re protected financially throughout the process. Your compensation is legally enforceable, and you have rights regarding medical care and decision-making during pregnancy.
Q: “What happens if something goes wrong—medically or legally?”
This is why working with experienced professionals is so important. Your contract will address various scenarios that might arise, from medical complications to relationship challenges. Legally, Maine’s framework protects your rights and interests. Medically, you’ll receive top-notch care throughout your pregnancy. Most “what if” scenarios are addressed in your contract before they become issues.
Q: “Do I need my own lawyer?”
Yes, and it’s actually required by law in Maine! You must have independent legal representation, and the intended parents pay for it. This ensures someone is looking out specifically for your interests during contract negotiations. Your lawyer will explain everything in plain English and make sure you understand your rights and protections.
Surrogate Compensation
Q: “How much do surrogates make in Maine?”
Surrogate compensation in Maine typically ranges from $35,000-$65,000 in base compensation, with first-time surrogates usually earning $35,000-$45,000 and experienced surrogates earning $45,000-$65,000+. But that’s just the base amount! Your total compensation package often includes monthly allowances, expense reimbursements, and additional payments that can bring your total earnings to $45,000-$80,000 or more.
Q: “When do I get paid?”
You don’t have to wait until delivery to start receiving money! Most compensation is paid monthly once pregnancy is confirmed, typically starting around 6-8 weeks gestation. You’ll also receive various upfront payments for things like signing your contract, starting medications, and completing the embryo transfer. Monthly allowances and expense reimbursements are paid throughout your pregnancy.
Q: “What expenses are covered?”
Pretty much everything related to your surrogacy journey! This includes all:
- Medical costs
- Travel to appointments
- Maternity clothing allowances
- Childcare during appointments
- Life insurance, and sometimes health insurance if needed
Lost wages are covered if bed rest is required. You shouldn’t be out of pocket for anything related to your surrogacy.
Q: “Are surrogate payments taxable?”
Your base compensation is generally considered taxable income, but expense reimbursements usually aren’t. It’s smart to set aside 20-25% of your base compensation for taxes and consider making quarterly payments. Many surrogates work with tax professionals who understand surrogacy arrangements to ensure everything is handled properly.
The Process
Q: “How long does the whole process take?”
From your first application to delivery, the complete journey typically takes 12-18 months. The pre-pregnancy process (application through embryo transfer) usually takes 3-6 months, depending on how quickly you move through screening, matching, and preparation. Then add approximately 9 months for pregnancy. Some steps can be done faster if you’re organized and responsive!
Q: “What’s the screening process like?”
Screening includes medical evaluations, psychological assessments, and background checks. Don’t worry—it’s not about judging you as a person! It’s about ensuring everyone’s safety and success. The medical part includes blood work, physical exams, and reviewing your pregnancy history. The psychological evaluation helps ensure you’re emotionally prepared for the journey. Most women find the process thorough but not invasive.
Q: “How are surrogates matched with intended parents?”
Finding intended parents involves reviewing profiles, having conversations, and often meeting in person or virtually. Good agencies present you with families who match your preferences and values. You’re never pressured to accept a match—finding the right fit is worth taking time for!
Q: “What if the first embryo transfer doesn’t work?”
This happens sometimes, and it’s typically covered in your contract. Most agreements allow for multiple transfer attempts, and you’ll continue receiving support and compensation throughout the process. Failed transfers are disappointing for everyone, but they don’t mean you’ve done anything wrong.
Health and Medical Process
Q: “Is surrogacy safe?”
Gestational surrogacy has an excellent safety record. You’ll receive top-quality medical care throughout the process, often at some of the best fertility clinics in Maine. The surrogacy medical process includes careful monitoring and support to ensure both your health and the baby’s health.
Q: “What medications will I need to take?”
Surrogacy medications typically include hormones to prepare your body for embryo transfer and support early pregnancy. Most women tolerate these medications well, and your medical team will monitor you carefully. The medication phase usually lasts for the first 8-12 weeks of pregnancy.
Q: “Can I continue my normal activities during pregnancy?”
Generally, yes! Maintaining a healthy surrogate pregnancy involves following the same guidelines as any healthy pregnancy. You can continue working, exercising (with modifications), and living your normal life. Your medical team will provide specific guidance based on your situation.
Q: “What if I have complications during pregnancy?”
You’ll receive excellent medical care for any complications, just like in any pregnancy. Your medical expenses are fully covered, and you may receive additional compensation if bed rest or other restrictions are required. The intended parents understand that pregnancy can be unpredictable, and proper planning addresses these possibilities.
Relationship and Family
Q: “How will this affect my own family?”
This depends largely on your family’s support and how you handle the journey together. Many successful surrogates say that explaining surrogacy to your children and getting your spouse fully on board are crucial steps. Most families find the experience positive and meaningful when everyone’s prepared and supportive.
Q: “What’s the relationship like with intended parents?”
This varies widely based on everyone’s personalities and preferences. Some surrogates develop close friendships with intended parents, while others maintain more professional relationships. The key is establishing clear expectations and communication from the beginning. Questions to ask intended parents help ensure you’re compatible.
Q: “Will I get too attached to the baby?”
This is the most common concern women have, and it’s completely understandable! Most surrogates do feel some connection to the baby they’re carrying, but they frame it as being a loving caretaker rather than the baby’s mother. Professional counseling and support help you process these feelings in healthy ways throughout the journey.
Q: “Do surrogates stay in touch after delivery?”
Many do! Some surrogates become lifelong friends with the families they help, while others prefer to step back after delivery. There’s no right or wrong approach—it depends on what feels good for everyone involved. Most contracts address post-delivery contact preferences. It’s honestly just up to you!
Agency and Support
Q: “Should I work with an agency or go independent?”
While independent surrogacy is possible, most experts strongly recommend working with an experienced agency, especially for first-time surrogates. Agencies provide legal protection, professional matching, medical coordination, and ongoing support throughout your journey. They handle the complicated stuff so you can focus on the meaningful parts of surrogacy.
Q: “How do I choose the right agency?”
Look for agencies with experience serving Maine, transparent communication, comprehensive services, and positive references from past surrogates. Ask about their support services, compensation packages, and how they handle challenges that might arise. The right agency will make you feel valued, supported, and excited about your journey.
Q: “What does an agency actually do for me?”
A good agency handles matching, legal coordination, medical scheduling, payment management, and ongoing support. They’re your advocate throughout the process, ensuring your interests are protected and your experience is positive. Essentially, they manage all the logistics so you can focus on the meaningful aspects of helping create a family.
Ready to Get Started?
We are here for you! Whether you want to explore what it’s like to be a surrogate, understand the pros and cons, or learn how to be a good surrogate, we’ve got the resources and support you need.
Have more questions about surrogacy in Maine? We can connect you to a specialist who knows Maine surrogacy inside and out. They can answer your specific questions, address your unique concerns, and help you determine if this incredible journey is right for you and your family.